When you are feeling down, everything may seem like an uphill battle that you have to face alone.  Finding the right therapist to help you with depression might seem overwhelming, even when you know counseling will help you feel better.  To overcome chronic stress or depression, you need to have supportive people in your life, including friends, family, and often, an experienced therapist who specializes in women and depression.

Finding the right counselor, who understands and treats chronic stress and depression in women, takes research, time, and knowledge.  Choosing the right therapist to help you overcome depression is an important decision, which can make a huge difference in how fast you recover.  If you have been struggling for a long time, it might not always be a good idea to choose a therapist based only on your insurance coverage.

Do Children of Older Parents Suffer?

The Hardships and Rewards of Children Born to Older Parents

Increasingly more children are being born to parents in their forties.  In my previous article, I addressed the advantages and disadvantages of having children in your 40s.  (In case you missed it, you can click here to read it).This article will focus on the experiences of children who have older parents.  For many of these children, the emotional texture of their childhoods and their experiences in early adulthood are quite different from those of their peers whose parents are younger.

ARE YOU TOO OLD TO BE A MOM?

 The hardships and rewards of having a baby in your 40s

The age of first-time moms in the Western World is increasing.  More and more, women delay motherhood, voluntarily as they spend time on their education and carriers, or involuntarily because they do not have a partner or because of infertility problems.  In the last decade, the number of women giving birth after the age of 35 and 40 has tripled and quadrupled, respectively.  The advances and accessibility of reproductive technologies are partly accountable for this sharp rise in older mothers.

Even though motherhood is as old as the human species, we are breaking new ground socially and personally with first time mothers in their mid to late forties.

If you are wondering whether you are too old to have a baby here are some pros and cons that may help you in making your decision:

How to pay attention to your inner emotional barometer, nurture yourself, and avoid burnout

Do you feel drained at the end of the day to the extent that you feel you have nothing left to give to your family?

Do you find yourself snapping or yelling at your spouse or your child and then feeling awful afterwards?

Think dealing with stress has to be difficult?  Think again!

For women, stress can come from a variety of daily experiences, such as:  pressure at work, taking care of young children, relationship conflicts, etc.  Stress can also come from unexpected events such as a crisis with your child, pregnancy loss, inability to get pregnant, or loss of a loved one.

When the holidays are over, how do you keep the blues away and go back to everyday life? 

Here are  some ideas. 

How Women Can Cope More Effectively with Feelings of Sadness During the Holiday Season.

The holiday season is upon us.  The period of time from Thanksgiving to New Years is full of social gatherings with friends and family; baking cookies for office and/or school parties; and shopping for gifts.  For many people, holidays can be joyous, but sometimes, they can also bring stress, anxiety, and sadness that can be difficult to shake off.  Often, anticipation and excitement turn into depression, commonly referred to as the “Holiday Blues.”  This can be accompanied by feeling overwhelmed, fatigued, and/or irritated.  The Holiday Blues can, at times, be unexpected and unsettling.  Many women who experience a feeling of sadness during the holidays may feel that something must be wrong with them because they “should” be happy.

As women, we are exposed to stress on a daily basis. Sometimes the stress is minor, but sometimes it can be extreme.  In our digital age, there is an increasing pressure to do more and more in less time.  Some women may have to respond to an increasing volume of e-mails and phone calls quickly, in addition to whatever they are already doing.  This time shortage is so prominent that some experts are calling it a “time famine.”

We All Get Depressed at Times….

It is common to feel sad or depressed after something negative has happened to you (i.e. the death of a loved one, loss of a job, end of a relationship).

Recent life transitions, such as having a new baby, or having difficulty getting pregnant, can also bring about depressive episodes.

Feelings of Depression Soon After Childbirth Are Common…

Most mothers (60%-80%) experience some emotional sensitivity, also known as “the baby blues” in the first week after childbirth.  These feelings usually spontaneously subside within 24 – 72 hours with the majority of new mothers.  When they don’t subside, both mothers and babies can suffer substantially.