How Women Can Cope More Effectively with Feelings of Sadness During the Holiday Season.

The holiday season is upon us.  The period of time from Thanksgiving to New Years is full of social gatherings with friends and family; baking cookies for office and/or school parties; and shopping for gifts.  For many people, holidays can be joyous, but sometimes, they can also bring stress, anxiety, and sadness that can be difficult to shake off.  Often, anticipation and excitement turn into depression, commonly referred to as the “Holiday Blues.”  This can be accompanied by feeling overwhelmed, fatigued, and/or irritated.  The Holiday Blues can, at times, be unexpected and unsettling.  Many women who experience a feeling of sadness during the holidays may feel that something must be wrong with them because they “should” be happy.

As women, we are exposed to stress on a daily basis. Sometimes the stress is minor, but sometimes it can be extreme.  In our digital age, there is an increasing pressure to do more and more in less time.  Some women may have to respond to an increasing volume of e-mails and phone calls quickly, in addition to whatever they are already doing.  This time shortage is so prominent that some experts are calling it a “time famine.”

We All Get Depressed at Times….

It is common to feel sad or depressed after something negative has happened to you (i.e. the death of a loved one, loss of a job, end of a relationship).

Recent life transitions, such as having a new baby, or having difficulty getting pregnant, can also bring about depressive episodes.

Feelings of Depression Soon After Childbirth Are Common…

Most mothers (60%-80%) experience some emotional sensitivity, also known as “the baby blues” in the first week after childbirth.  These feelings usually spontaneously subside within 24 – 72 hours with the majority of new mothers.  When they don’t subside, both mothers and babies can suffer substantially.

Have you ever wondered how you can best enable your child to thrive emotionally; feel confident; be inquisitive; develop healthy peer relationships; and be able to manage stress?  Many of the answers can be found in mother-infant bonding.

Babies actively seek contact with their mothers and try to keep them close by smiling, cooing, looking, clinging, sucking, and following parents.  Establishing and maintaining closeness with their mother creates feelings of love, security, and joy.

In the 1950s John Bowlby, the father of attachment theory, observed children’s reactions to separations from their mothers, such as hospitalization.  He was struck by the sheer intensity of emotion the children experienced during the separation.  Through observing the impact of separation, he came to appreciate the importance of emotional bonds.  He stated that it is essential for the mental health of the infant that “the infant and the young child experience a warm and intimate and a continuous relationship with his mother (or permanent mother substitute) in which both find satisfaction and enjoyment”.

Losing a baby at any stage of pregnancy can be a big loss!

It is estimated that 10-25% of pregnancies end up in miscarriages and less than 1% in still births, making miscarriages a fairly common occurrence.

The Emotional Impact of Miscarriages on Women

In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) can be life-transforming when it works.  Unfortunately, it can also be a source of physical and emotional stress for both partners.

While emotional distress is inherent to infertility, IVF protocols have a number of stressful aspects that often increase emotional distress.

These stress factors include:

Infertility and its treatment can be very stressful, causing tension and   strain in even the strongest relationships.  Although the stress due to Infertility affects both men and women, they tend to experience it differently.  This article explains what some of these differences are so that you can better understand the way you and your partner may be handling infertility.  With a better understanding of one another, you will be better able to avoid common sources of conflict.

Did you know that one out of six couples have problems getting or staying pregnant?

It is hard to be positive and not be worried when you face negative pregnancy test results month after month.  It is common to feel disappointed, angry, guilty and stressed.  You may feel as if you are on an emotional rollercoaster.

If you are you dreading the upcoming holiday season, you are probably not alone.

Holidays can be a wonderful time to get together with friends and family, but often, you can easily become stressed because you do not have the child that you have been wishing for.